Forgetting & Remembering

Humans have got memory like all other animals and birds. They can store any information that is perceived by their senses and retrieve it as when required. But the retrieval capacity from the memory stored is not equal in all and varies with age, the type of experience, the attitude, and many others. Forgetting is a gift from god to all because of this we can move on in life otherwise we would be stagnant with petty revenges. Unless we want to forget a event ie., a memory it is not possible to achieve. 

To forget a memory we shouldnot try to remember a event frequently because the more number times we think of a particular event, the memory of that event becomes more and more strong and forgetting it becomes become more difficult. We all want to forget the bad experiences and in many of the bad experiences we are the victims who suffer defeat, humilitiation, insult etc at the hands of persons we donot like or infront a crowd who thinks good about us.

The mind tends to create negative feelings and thoughts more easily than positive ones. These negative feelings if not controlled make us to remember the events that we are supposed to remember. Older folks say that "Forgiveness is a powerful weapon, because it liberates the soul", liberate from the evils of revenge and hate. Usually the feelings of revenge are very powerful and consume so much energy that we may feel week and loss of interest in life. The memory remains withus for a long time.

The mind remembers the happy events more clearly and keeps one from going insane with all the stressful life we are leading. All the happy states are recorded and played within the subconsciousness mind to keep us moving on with life. What the mind choses to discard and retains depends on the conditioning from the childhood and the care a person receives throughout his life. The balance between the remembering of good events and forgetting the bad events is very important, otherwise people may miss the purpose of their existence.

Due to many factors like inhibitions, shyness people are not able express themselves, and within them the bad events boil to such an extent that all the good things in life become little and people may even forget their astounding acheivements like providing for a family, the house they built, the reputation they have created, become so small that they may want to end this life. If forgetting and remembering is a god's gift then why people donot forget bad things but remember them for a long.

The most important lessons in life are learnt in the most difficult conditions occuring to us or to the ones we know about. Thus if we forget all the bad experiences then there is going forward, but people from childhood shouldnot be pampered but made to understood to learn from all the possible experiences  that they encounter and learn a thing or two and move on life. The learning should not be forgetton and share the good and bad with others so that everyone comes to know everything and be prepared for everything that life throws at them. Everyone should find a partnet with whom they can share and learn. The partner neednot a life partner but a friend, a dog, a tree, a sea, a river anything but not yourself.