Thursday, 13 December 2012

Parent's expectations


A child is born into a family and is celebrated by the whole family, neighbours of the parents, and all others. Then the trouble starts to mount on the parents when various people start to comment and compare the performance, activites of one child to anothers. The young, innocent parents if they fall prey to these comments, then they inturn pressurize the child to walk, learn, speak, identify objects, and what not just to make others happy. In any case atleast one of the partitipating member of this event has to take the burden of keeping others happy. In many cases the child is burden bearer and no one ever realises.

As the child grows to age of going to school, college, job, marriage the comparision only becomes more and more severe. There will be times when the individual may go into depression for not being to able to meet the expectations. If there is no help provided or sought may end in suicides. The comparision one with another is a biggest mistake a human considers. It is done with a belief that everyone are born equals and if any inequality is there it can be overcome by appropriate training and support.

The concept of performance evaluation is so much biased towards the top performers. The underperformers are noteven cared for, who at many times are better individuals than the top performers. The top performer is not necessarily a good individual. People have forgot to differentiate the performance and the performer and if one fails in a task he is termed a failure. Many people do their just to get some satisfaction and a means of getting some livelihood and the performance measurements donot affect these.

There is a class of people who want to be at the top and harass all others surrounding them to get the results and be a top performer. To these people who come second are equal to dirt. These people have a huge ego and always try to boost in all possible ways. They inturn start to compare performances of his juniors and try to improve and create a human like themselves, so individuality is left out.

The best way to beat this performance syndrome is to work for satisfaction and setting more realistic goals in life and strecting oneself to get one step less than what the maximum potential and being content. Being content is the best medicine in life and there is nothing having a peace of mind and running the entire life to achieve something. If this is ever told to people in the so called rat race, then we are called losers. I accept being a loser and am at more peace of mind as i know whats is possible and get 10percent more in life i need to spend 90percent extratime of mine and others and it is not worth it. Be content and donot worry about the performance, and do a job at the fullest extent efficiency and enjoy the results. Donot attach yourself with results. 

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