Indians have survived thousands of years, evolving and
adapting to the changing scenarios all the time. A race continues by the
children being born, and so there is a huge pressure for the birth of a child
especially male child also popularly called varis. A child born through a legitimate
relationship is valued more than through other means and the legitimate
relationship is the institution of family. The legitimacy is granted through marriage.
Thus Indian society lays huge importance to marriage which results in the
extension of the family and ultimately the extension of the race.
The globalization, modernization and other ____tions has
led to the marriage between people who could never bear a child. A marriage
between same lesbians, gays or transgender does not result in procreation and
hence no extension of the race. The marriage results in the family which is the
fundamental building block of the society, but with newly approved marriages
the basic building blocks have much more variety and the long term implications
of such actions can hardly be estimated.
The LGBT groups have become more aggressive and have formed
lobbying groups. The human society with all its cruel attitudes has the
compassion to take along various kinds of people with it. There will be mutual
respect between various kinds of groups, but the society usually filled with
conservatives and hardcore religious fanatics is not able to digest the new
building blocks of the society. The marriage between people is losing its
appeal and also its sacredness which is evident in the increase in the
divorces.
On one hand, the society at large has become more
accommodating, but at the individual level the accommodating capacity is
reducing, ultimately resulting in divorces. This is the stark contrast between
the reactions at the macro and micro level, the reason for this type of behavior
is still not clear to either the social scientists or the behavioral experts.
The LGBTs are here to stay, but they are not so powerful in the India but will
slowly find acceptance. Many Indians believe it as a western lifestyle disease,
but it is basically due to the openness in sexuality that it was come out more
quickly in West than in India.
The success and survival of Hindus is due to marriage and
children being the central concept. A person who is considered to be
marriageable age is usually under pressure to get married and the couple to
produce a child. The pressure is from parents, friends, relatives and all known
and unknown persons, because an unmarried person is not generally seen in the
same light as that of a married person. The concept of being celibate though
existed all through the ages, the texts don’t recommend such life style but in
the end it is the personal choice.
In the current scenario, people who want to make it big in
their career think marriage is a obstacle because of the requirement to produce
a child and which requires both time efforts before and after the child birth.
This reason has made many people from getting married at the right time and
resulting in delayed marriages with increasing complexities in child birth. All
this mess has created a huge black market of womb rentals in India. Apart from
womb rentals, there are many other methods of begetting a child for a childless
couple and those who have problems of fertility issues.
The advancement of technology and the availability of
surrogate mothers has both is pros and cons, but one thing they have achieved
is the destruction of the sacredness of the marriage and the institution of
family. With changing times, the priority of people keeps changing and so are
the ethics, morals of the society. With sex being commoditized in the west, the
average of a person losing his virginity is around 17 in USA it is around 22 in
India, but still India has huge population growth. Apart from the population
growth, the number of single parents in USA is pretty high per lakh of
population compared to India.
Many people believe that sex is fundamental to marriage
apart from that there are references that the pleasures coming out of the act
are the most tempting and the urges most difficult to control. Thus highly
philosophical and intellectual sages of this land have put the institution of
marriage at the center of the person’s life, where in the pleasures are not
taken away and the person is made accountable for his actions.
The 4stages of the human life brahmacharya, grihastha,
vanaprastha and sannyasa are all equally important and there is no stopping of
anyone from enjoying all the pleasures of the life. The only requirement is
that the person has to follow the principles which put a lid on any excesses and
help the person advance in his spiritual and material pursuits. The former part
of pursuit if forgotten and has become merely symbolic and the later pursuit
has become the central focus. There is nothing wrong in material pursuits,
without which there could be no wealth generation and all the people would be
poor but not hungry.
There is always enough food in the world to feed the man’s
hunger but not enough to feed man’s greed. Sex after being commoditized and being treated
as hunger which has to be fed, has yielded in the reduction of sacredness and
the value of the institution of marriage. All the societies that have commoditized
sex have brought about their downfall slowly but surely. Of the urges in
general, it is difficult to control the sexual urges and the bounds made by the
society are broken in the name of _____tions. Only after a full cycle of destruction
and downfall, marriage and family will regain their lost glory.
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